Superhero Self Care – Part 1

I owe you an apology.

Not that you’ve asked for one, but I truly feel like I have let people down. How? I didn’t do what I said I was going to do. And that’s not okay.

I had a plan.

It all sounded very good on paper. But then life happened, things got in the way, priorities shifted, etc. Basically, I lost my path. Fulfilling my promises is high on my values list. Whether it’s writing these articles when I say I will, having a date night with my son or saving a nonprofit from financial ruin, when I say I’m going to do it, I owe it to myself and to you to be as good as my word.

Yes, Life happens, and yes, schedules get thrown off by the unexpected. And here I am putting myself back on schedule, and letting you know I’m back.

The funny thing is, everyone struggles with accountability and follow-through, even Superheroes. Please accept my humble, work-in-progress apology and hear me when I say I’m here. I’m back. And I’m sharing from my own experience what I know will be useful for you!Superhero businesswoman-sized

The next few newsletters I write will be focused on the tools I use to take care of myself, because I know they will be valuable to you as well. Look at any Superhero story with depth, and you will see times when even superheroes struggle with loneliness, separation, lack of acknowledgement and fulfillment, and basically a mid-life crisis at any age. As I’ve said before, this is not an easy path we have chosen, and if there is anything I can offer that will ease your path, I will do it. I promise.

One thing I regularly reach for from my toolbox is affirmations.

Once, while reading an inspirational book in a hotel room with no one around, I decided to try affirmations, even though I had never been comfortable with the concept. I walked over to the mirrored closet doors and looked at myself like I was trying to say something intelligent to my biggest hero. I stammered. I couldn’t think of what to say. I tried to say nice things to my mirror image and they sounded hokey or semi-nice like “Well, you try hard,” or “You aren’t that bad.” And then I thought, “If my daughter said things like that about herself I’d be very worried.” And that made me smile. I was inspired to consider what I would like my daughter to say to herself in the mirror.  And then I blurted out, “I love you!”  

And you know, it worked. I felt better, and I still remember that moment very vividly—it still inspires me. I recently came up with a list of affirmations that I printed and taped inside my medicine cabinet door. I see them every day, and my mood always changes for the better. I also rotate them on my screen saver on my computer, just to remind me that I am on this path not just because I chose it, but because I am uniquely positioned to bring my gifts to the world. I want to share some of my list with you, maybe you’ll resonate with one or two and try them yourself!

  • I’m doing something no one else can do.

  • I am surrounded by love and support.

  • I am appreciated by those in my life.

  • People see the real me, with all my good intentions, and want to help me succeed.

  • I am trustworthy, with a purpose that is beyond these daily trials.

  • My life increases in happiness and abundance.

  • I elevate myself, my family and friends, my tribe, and therefore the Universe.

  • Everything is perfectly as it should be.

  • There is enough time for everything.

  • I am bursting with love and alacrity.

  • I have been divinely inspired and will continue to draw from that well of support.

  • I have a plan to make this all work. I have already succeeded.

  • The Universe is at the edge of its seat, having waited all this time for me to turn the page.

I’d love to know—what are some of the affirmations or self-talk you use to remind yourself of the good you do? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments section below.


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